Are Your Relationships Accelerating Your Journey?

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The people in your life are merely passengers on the bus of your journey, they can make the ride super enjoyable  or make it pure torture.  How are the people in your life helping you navigate toward your destination? Taking time to look at your relationships from another perspective may provide you a shortcut, a more direct route and smooth the road to your success. Read on to discover the compatibility of each person in your life.

Going from “Nowhere to Knowing” has everything to do with who you surround yourself with, the network of people you associate with and recognizing the quality they bring to your life.  Certainly, your closest relationships will have an impact on your life journey.  They will either support you, believe in you and provide a source of encouragement or they do everything in their power to keep you small by tearing down your ideas, creating more struggle and dis-empowering you.  The idea here is to create an awareness of the relationships in your life and know you have a choice to either keep that passenger along your side or perhaps decide to let them off the bus.  This is not to say you have to remove them entirely from your life, you just may be better off visiting them from time to time when passing through. Building stronger, purposeful relationships by simply understanding the people around you, knowing the role they play and setting clear boundaries can truly accelerate your journey.

If you are serious about taking your life to the next level, then its time to evaluate your relationships and measure the value they bring into your life.  Measuring the strengths and weaknesses of your relationships is an important step in aligning yourself with the highest vision you have of who you are and where you desire to be. Knowing the purpose they serve is equally important. What lessons or messages have they brought you? Have you ever wondered why you get along with certain people and not others? Why certain relationships last and others don’t?  Or why relationships seem to just “grow apart”? Perhaps this will help explain a few things…

I have found some amazing tools along my journey from Nowhere to Knowing, that assist me in creating an awareness that guides me toward a deeper understanding of myself and my relationship to life itself.  Numerology is one tool I found to be a fascinating practice, an art really, to defining your life path, gain a better understanding of people in your life and determining the compatibility between you and your close relationships. When your life path is in alignment with another, it flows, but when it isn’t, it can be very challenging.  Knowing your “numbers” can heal a broken relationship or strengthen a great one. This is especially helpful when entering a romantic relationship, business partnership or if you just want to have a better understanding of the people in your life. So lets take a look.

In Numerology, the most important number to look at in relationships, especially romantic relationships, is your Life Path number. However, taking into account the vast collection of numbers in each individual’s Numerology chart, this is by no means the only number to consider, so the compatibility descriptions that follow should not be taken as the final word.

First, you’ll need to determine your Life Path number.  Calculate your Life Path number, then calculate the life path of your significant other or anyone of interest, simply by adding the numbers of your entire birth date.  For example:  Someone with a birth date of June 23, 1966, would add the numbers as such:  6+2+3+1+9+6+6 = 33, 3+3 = 6 life path.

Note: For the purposes of evaluating relationships, master numbers 11, 22 and 33 are reduced to 2, 4 and 6 respectively.  More on the topic of Numerology will be sprinkled throughout my future blogs.

Although having your Life Path in alignment is a very good start to a healthy relationship there are many factors to consider when deciding if your partner is indeed your soul mate or an ideal business associate.  In my research for the most comprehensive information on relationship compatibility, I found Michael McClain (Resource: Astrology-Numerology.com) to be spot on.  Here are the compatible numbers for each life path and the possibilities for each combination:

1 and 1: Two people with a strong desire to lead, and, two people who want very much to be independent. Two 1s in a relationship understand and accept each other perhaps better than any other number can understand the 1. This is a relationship not without pitfalls as the match can get dicey when they start to compete. But for the most part, it is a good one filled with excitement and activity.

1 and 2: Two very different people who do well if they remember their roles. The 1 is best equipped to be the breadwinner, and the 2 will be the one to feather the nest and keep the warmth of romance alive and well. The 1 must avoid being distracted and never forget how important attention is for the 2 partner.

1 and 3: This is a very lively couple that seem to shamelessly enjoy life and each other. The 3 is good at acknowledging the 1 accomplishments and stroking the ego. The 3 provides the ideas and the 1 provides the push, so this couple can cover a lot of ground. Yet they have to be careful about what they say since neither handles criticism very well.

1 and 4: 4’s desire for control is a tough sell on the 1. The 1’s need to make things happen now, frustrates the meticulous 4. Opposites in many ways, these two should not expect easy compromise. If they ever can accept one another for who they are, their respective strengths will make a solid relationship.

1 and 5: This is a very compatible combination as both of these numbers are ones that like to have a lot of freedom in a relationship. The drive for independence is paramount for each. They may be so busy with their own “thing” that time together is limited, very special, and often exciting. As you might expect, the most serious threat is when either tries to impose his or her will on the other.

1 and 6: This is a power struggle waiting to happen. The 6 wants and needs to a caretaker. The 1 has an absolute need to be independent and unrestrained. This can be a successful pairing only if they can work past this roadblock, and give each other the support they both need.

1 and 7: These are very different energies but ones that somehow blend nicely. The 7 provides wise insights while the 1 becomes a needed motivator. The key is to understand the tendencies; the 1 can get too busy with the outer world to always be there for the 7, and the 7 can be too into their own world to be there for the 1. Neither should take this absence personally.

1 and 8: From a business standpoint, this is a good match. But from the love angle, it is questionable at best. Both are so assertive and demanding, that expectations can far exceed reality. Negative feedback from either will be deadly in this pairing. Success depends on a open and mutual willingness to compromise and limit demands.

1 and 9: The 9 brings a selflessness to the relationship which allows the 1 to operate in an environment that is understanding and smooth flowing. The 1 will have to learn to share the partner who is inclined to extend a giving nature outside the home. If there is trouble in this partnership it will generally come from the 9s difficulty tolerating the 1’s assertive and individualistic behavior.

2 and 2: A great match of two souls both needing to give and receive love. Experts at mediation, they have little difficulty finding common ground on just about any issue that arises. The only word of caution for this pairing is that they must each remember how thin their own skin is so as to not cause verbal injury to the other. Generally this is not a problem because of their polite manner and mutual respect.

2 and 3: These are potentially very good partners because of the good humor and good chemistry. The 3 is always “on stage” and full of life and social energy, while the 2 is happy as a lark standing back and enjoying the show. The 2 balances the needs of the 3 by providing a soothing and calming influence.

2 and 4: This is a steady pairing resulting in comfort personified. When it comes to home and family, the 4 is the ultimate builder and provider. Security is 4’s forte. Nothing is more appealing to the 2 than home, hearth, and family. The only difficulty likely here is one of perception. The 2 needs love to be shown and always physically apparent, and the 4 is sometimes not so demonstrative.

2 and 5: The 2 needs family and an ever present sense of being loved, and the 5 need total freedom to pursue whatever avenues appear on the horizon. This is one where the chemistry has to be very strong in order for the two very different souls to forge some significant compromises. Obviously, these two can provide a lot that may otherwise be missing, but it won’t be an easy road.

2 and 6: This is another good love match. The 6 ranks first in family while the 2 tops the chart in love and caring. Still the pair need to watch their Ps and Qs as the 6 has a surprising need for approbation, and 2’s thin skin can suffer with the direct and demanding approach that sometimes characterizes the 6. Considerations of feelings is a must.

2 and 7: This is a couple that has some strong and dissimilar needs. The 2’s need for demonstrative love and 7’s need for a good deal of space and solitude make this a pairing that will work only if both can stay tuned in to the other’s needs and be willing to cater to them at least to some degree. Generally the 2 will have to find something to occupy much of the time that would otherwise be devoted to the mate.

2 and 8: A pairing that usually works very well because it is likely that each has a clear vision of their role. The 8 is about the outer world of business and attainment, taking care of the financial needs of the family. The 2 takes care of the family and is there to pamper the ego of their partner. A pitfall in this relationship can occur if the 8 fails to sufficiently value the labors of the 2. Generally, this is the classic traditional family model, or in the case of the male 2, female 8, the classic male/female role reversal.

2 and 9: These two can have a wonderful relationship or it can be not so wonderful. The 2 needs constant attention, and certainly the 9 is a caring individual. But the care they naturally possess is spread to all humanity and often it is not focused enough at home. The 9 is a natural leader and the 2 is a natural follower, so there is always hope. The 9 needs to remember that the 2 hates to be alone, and the 2 needs to be forewarned that the 9’s love will only stretch so far.

3 and 3: Wild and interesting describes this pairing of two with so much creative and social potential. No one has more fun that a pair of 3s who understand and support one another. The question may become who is going to take care of the mundane. The pitfall of this relationship comes when neither partner can hold on to reins of practical everyday details.
3 and 4: When the spontaneous 3 pairs with the micro-manager 4, something has to give, and often it won’t. The 3 will take each day as it comes while the 4 has to have a definite plan far into the future. If the two can ever figure out how to meet in the middle, they will do a good job of balancing each other’s shortcomings. The 3 will show the 4 how to have fun while the 4 can give the 3 a needed sense of security.

3 and 5: This is one of the most social combination you will find. The two will generally find each other very interesting and their ability to entertain will be never ending. Social opportunities, travel, and numerous activities promise this relationship won’t get boring. Both are creative by nature, yet neither excels at managing the budget, so everyday affairs can cause problems sometimes.

3 and 6: This is a natural combination that works well in most cases. The 3 is full of enthusiasm and ideas, and the 6 provides the stability, support, and encouragement that often makes this combination an idea team in many ways. The chemistry here is very strong and durable. The challenge of this combination can come in the form of 6 jealous feelings toward the oft flirtatious 3. Usually it will be the 6 who will have to learn to deal with an inborn trait.

3 and 7: These two are about as different as people get. The 3 wants to be constantly on the go with a swirl of activity, travel, and social contact that the 7 will find intolerable. The 7 needs solitude and can only take so much human contact before retreating to their preferred peace and quiet. Confrontation in this pairing never works well, and it will be up to both to understand the long-term need for compromise. The key to success here is open dialog regarding wants, needs, and goals.

3 and 8: This is a combination that requires extra effort mostly because of the departure of needs. The 8 needs goals and authority to feel happy, and efforts focused here leave the 3 without needed attention and stimulation. The secret to success in this combination, if there is one, is frequent getaways; periods when the 3 gets the 8 away from business and relaxed enough to have some fun. There isn’t much frivolity in the 8, and this can sometimes be a tough sale.

3 and 9: This is a wonderful combination of two people who are apt to keep each other endlessly engaged in a variety of creative ways. Both like to be on stage and both are interested in people. They care about people and the 9 can be generous to a fault. The 9 is the teacher and the 3 is the ever eager student. Sharing experience is a never ending joy of this pairing. The problem the couple faces is settling down, feathering a nest, and keeping the bills paid. Even after they are settled and set, romantic adventures will always be important.

4 and 4: The keywords for this combination are solid and secure. For individuals who need to know that the bills are paid and future is totally secure, who better to fill this need than another 4. These two will share goals that they work for and nearly always achieve. Success is measured by a sense that growth is continual and this includes love and romance. The down side of this pairing, if there is one, is the sense that nothing is ever completely okay. It’s hard to relax , be spontaneous, and enjoy the moment and each other. Nonetheless, there are few relationships destined to be more stable than this one.

4 and 5: Challenge. The 4 and the 5 have different temperaments and different ways of communicating. The 4 is very direct to the point, while the 5 will be more diplomatic and indirect. 4s don’t like change, and 5s have to have it. To find success, this couple will need to respect the difference and pay attention to what is said and what is inferred.

4 and 6: A comfortable match of traditional types, this pairing has promise from the very beginning. Chances are the 6 will want to take the lead in this relationship, and a secure home and family are all that is needed to produce a satisfying long-term situation. The challenge of this relationship is compromise. Neither is very good at this.

4 and 7: This is a relationship that has a serious tone about it and may be driven by a mutual need for security. It is loyal and devoted, even it it may lack the fire and passion of some combinations. The 4 is a natural provider of rock solid security and home values. The 7 provides a quest for continued mental development and adventure. The combination makes life both secure and yet more interesting for both.

4 and 8: This is a comfortable pairing because both parties understand hard work and have a good head for business and getting ahead in the world. The 4 is the cautious planner, while the 8 has a more grandiose approach to endeavors. The only problem probably can be one of finding the time to spend together in a quest for romance. Yet this is a couple that knows how to build for the future and develop a very secure relationship.

4 and 9: These two are so very different that successful pairings are rare. The 9 is far more social and fosters deep humanitarian instincts. The 4 is focused on the basics of building a secure and solid immediate world. To succeed in a relationship requires both to be aware of how different their approaches are, and somehow muster a willingness to accept. The 4 will certainly appreciate the 9’s knowledge and intelligence, and the 9 must likewise value the 4’s ruthless consistency.

5 and 5: A pair of 5s is a very compatible couple who prize their freedom to be different and adventuresome. Few others will be as open to the constant flow of new ideas and changes so common in the 5. In this relationship, partners easily anticipate what the other is thinking and where they are going. And they also have a sense for staying out of the way and accepting the freewheeling lifestyle. 5s choosing to support one another can do just about anything. The difficulty with this pairing is focus, and there may be a problem handling the mundane day-to-day affairs.

5 and 6: This is a combination requiring great compromise since the 5 thrives on freedom and space, and the 6 is noted for exerting control and nurturing supervision. The 6 wants complete commitment, and the 5 is looking for adventure and new horizons. In a relationship, they would probably be good for each other if they could find a way to meet somewhere near the middle. They must avoid any tendency to become entrenched in positions that just won’t work for the other.

5 and 7: This is a relationship which is more or less free of rules and procedures. In some ways, these two are much alike and the relationship is generally very compatible. The 7 values the time to be alone and enjoy the world of study and reflection in their private space. At the same time, the 5 has plenty going on and appreciates not having demands for attention being the paramount feature of the relationship. Yet these two can get together and find a never ending stream of mutual interests to discuss and explore.

5 and 8: This is a relationship between two individuals who don’t always follow the rules, and they might find themselves locking horns on the rules of a relationship. The 8 is used to being the boss and dominating most situations. The 5 seeks freedom from any restraints. The 8 is focused on success, particularly in a financial sense, and the 5 doesn’t even want to think about money. It will take careful planning and compromise to make this relationship work.

5 and 9: This is a relationship between two who may find it hard to work the relationship into their busy schedules. Both of these numbers represent people who are apt to be in a constant state of transition and change. In this regard they have much in common and will generally find each other very interesting, for the moment or for the long haul. The compassion of the 9 and progressive thinking of the 5 seems to blend well. Establishing a commitment to security is a must.

6 and 6: This is a combination charged with romance, but in essence it is rather practical by nature. Home and family is second nature here, and these will be the top priorities for sure. This is a very compatible pairing. The 6 knows what’s best for their partner, so they do a good job of taking care of each other, and a family is a must. Yet the 6 by its nature wants the whole family under his/her thumb, so the challenge may be in agreeing who is going to be charge. The circumstances of the relationship will usually be able to sort this out.

6 and 7: These are two very different people with very different ideas about a relationship. The 6 is openly interested in a permanent situation complete with a stable home and family. With the secretive 7, it is hard to tell what the goal might be, and only time will tell. Despite the sexual attraction that may be present, this is a very challenged combination. The 6 is too controlling, and the 7 just isn’t to be closely managed. The compromises required in this relationship really bend and manipulate the natural traits of both numbers.

6 and 8: This is a very positive and compatible relationship of two who are usually open and positive in most that they do. This is a couple with big ideas, and their ideas are usually brought to reality in grand fashion. The home will provide plenty of space for family, work, and frequent entertaining of their many friends. A down side to the relationship can occur if the possessive 6 has to compete too much with the business interests of the 8. Likewise, the 8 will be frustrated when the demands at home cramp the executive lifestyle and obligations.

6 and 9: This is generally a very compatible relationship prospect as the 9 is one of the few numbers to gain 6’s utmost respect. In a family situation, the 6 is unsurpassed as a manager, and the 9 is never reticent in heaping praise in recognition. This often creates a mutual admiration environment that provides a happy home for both partners. The 6 helps the 9 stay focused on details and common sense issues, while the 9 broadens the 6’s outlook and sense of the world at large. The expansiveness of this pairing may suggest the need to keep a close eye on the budget.

7 and 7: This is one situation in which no one understands the eccentricities of a 7 nearly as well as another 7. Thus, this is a very compatible pairing. With the right attitude, this couple will find the interest to freely explore the world together, or spend their days in happy solitude together. Chances are you are on the same psychic wavelength, so you will surely catch the signals as they flash by. The downside of this pairing is the tendency to not communicate, so an effort may have to be made to keep the lines open and operating.
7 and 8: This is a combination that seems to work well physically, but one which is plagued with problems on the emotional level. The 8 has a tendency to dominate and control, and the 7 is a very private person prone to resist attempts to exert authority. The power of both numbers can result in frequent verbal battles. Yet there is a stability factor in the pairing that makes long-term success a possibility if accommodations can be reached.

7 and 9: This couple is anything but neutral in their affiliation. They are listed neutral because the relationship can go either way depending largely on spiritual beliefs. Both have strong spiritual inclinations and deeply held positions. However, these views of the spiritual and God often divide along rigidly held lines. In such cases, compromise is usually not an option. When the spiritual positions are in harmony, this can be a very compatible combination.

8 and 8: This pairing might be known as the “Dynamic Duo” as this is a combination that is full of passion and romance. Indeed, this pairing is a strong and enduring match- up. Yet both partners will be easily distracted by the events in their life as goals and professional demands often supersede romantic possibilities. Solid as the relationship probably is, the couple may have a hard time communicating the depth of feeling in either word or deed. Guard against competing with one another, and getting caught up in schedules and the demands of work. Make time for each other and always focus on being equal partners.

8 and 9: This is a challenging combination in which two highly motivated individuals – motivated in very different ways – find it hard to accept the ways of the other. In general the goals of the 9 are lofty and may have a humanitarian bend, while the 8 seeks the reward that comes with development of leadership and material success. To have much of a chance, the 8 will have to appreciate the lessons that can be learned from their generous partner. When they are able to work as a team, this is a powerful and often inspirational pair. Too often, however, the combination fails to click.

9 and 9: This relationship has much promise as it usually engages two charismatic types possessing much intellectual stimulation. The nature of the 9 is selfless, so this combination usually faces few challenges; each wanting to please the other and always be there for each other. A relationship offering the opportunity to grow, learn, and serve, this is often an inspiring combination.

PASSION OR PAYCHECK?

ImageImagine what the world would be like if everyone did what they loved!  We would walk into any restaurant or store and be greeted by a smiling, genuinely happy person who loves to serve people.  We would receive the best customer service wherever we went, because people would truly care and have passion about what they do.  The coffee would be made with love and positive energy at the local coffee shop, food would be healthier and tastier because of the love behind the creative cooking.  People would be more pleasant to one another because there would be less stress from an unfulfilled job or career.  This world would be an entirely different place.  Well, who has the power to change it? Thats right, you do.  If your career is not in alignment with your life passion, it is never too late to choose again.

So perhaps its time to ask yourself, do you work for your passion or a paycheck? Working merely for a paycheck can become unrewarding in time.  When there is nothing to lift or fulfill the spirit on the job, this makes us want to find something else.  And not following through on this can lead to feelings of sadness, depression which then transfer to bitterness and anger, very unhealthy emotions, that do not impact our world in a positive way.

If you are one of those people working merely for a paycheck and not passion, then you are not alone.  80% of people hate their jobs according to a recent US Study.  Although “do what you love and the money will follow” sounds great in theory, there are other factors to consider in this big decision.  

Some of you may have been searching to find that one thing that will fulfill you, asking yourself, “What is my dream job?”  Many people say just “Follow your Passion” but its easier said than done.  So, is that really the best advice?  Its a true fact that 75% of people don’t even know what their true passion is.  But many try to do it anyway before putting enough thought and planning into making a major life shift like following your passion in life.  This is a big decision and shouldn’t be taken lightly.

WHY DO PEOPLE KEEP TRYING TO FOLLOW THEIR PASSION?
Its what our society has created.  Our culture celebrates the dreamer who beats the odds and succeeds.  However its not how the vast majority succeeds.  I am the first person to cheer you on when it comes to following your dream and soul purpose, however, I do believe you need to set some serious intentions, create a solid plan and put it into action.  People keep trying to follow their passion because they rather do something they enjoy and hope the world rewards them for it as opposed to putting in the hard work.

People often want to turn a hobby into a career, only to find out that the professionals in that category often spend more time on business development than doing their ‘hobbies.  Turning your passionate hobby into a business could have an opposing affect, where you are doing more administrative duties that the creative work that inspires you. If you are the creative type (Life Path 3, for example, is highly creative by nature) consider partnering with others who have a strong business sense (A Life Path 4, hardworking and business oriented, or a take-charge 8 Life Path, the CEO type of person).  

HOW DOES ONE FIND THEIR TRUE PASSION?
Pay close attention to the flow of your life and what is showing up.  The Universe may be delivering something entirely different than what you imagined.  So be open minded, clear the clutter, peel back those layers and begin to expand your imagination.  Spend some quiet time alone, do some heavy duty soul-searching and self-reflection.  Take the observer role of your life for a few minutes and breathe deeply. Nature helps you connect quicker to your spirit, and your spirit is where you true authentic passion lives. Start by answering these 7 questions (will help guide you) and write down the answers in a “My Passion/Purpose Journal”:

What puts a smile on your face?
What do you find easy?
What sparks your creativity?
What would you do for free?
What do you like to talk about?
What makes you unafraid of failure?
What would you regret not having tried?

HOW DO YOU FIND A JOB or CAREER YOU LOVE?
First, you must clearly identify what you’re passion truly is.  Get to the root of the passion.  How it makes you feel versus what the actual activity is. Because the Universe will deliver to the energy vibration of your “feeling”.  Remember, feelings are magnetic!

Second, make a list of everything that you’re passionate about then assign a work title to it.  Be specific. If drawing is something you love, perhaps a graphic designer at a an agency. Think back to your childhood playtime, before society had an influence and adulthood responsibility took over.  What did you enjoy then?  (playing school, arts/crafts, cars, etc.) What was your favorite game? If you say, Monopoly, then perhaps your interest lies in real estate, finance and investing.  If legos was your favorite pastime, then you enjoy building something from the ground up and starting a business or inventing something new may be on your horizon.

Third, You must believe you can. Eliminate fear, doubt and worry – only positive, confident energy and visualize your success every single day. Be sure to surround yourself around others that believe in you too and have less interaction and conversations about your dream with those who don’t back you up.

Fourth, keep the faith! Affirmations have power, reading daily affirmations help accelerate the process (Resource:  Louise Hay, I Can Do It)
 When you hear people speak negatively: “It may be true for some, but not for me. I always prosper no matter where I am or what is going on.”
Reinforce your beliefs:  “I deserve to have a successful career, and I accept it now.”
Eliminate set-backs:  “Limitations are merely opportunities to grow.  I use them as stepping stones to success.”
To eliminate fear of money:  “My income is increasing”
 Unclear of your passion or searching for a new opportunity: “The perfect job/opportunity is looking for me and we are being brought together now.”
To create passion at your current job:  “My job allows me to express my talents and abilities and I am grateful for this employment.”

And lastly, Make a plan and stick to it.

HOW DOES ONE MAKE A PLAN?
Stop complaining about what is not working for you and focus on what you want (not on what you don’t want).  The Universe will give you what you put your energy into. again keep that visual image in the forefront of your thoughts daily.
Set realistic. Measurable goals with specific dates attached to it.  (For example, by July 31, 2013 I will have $2,000 saved to put toward opening my Yoga Studio. By August 30, 2013, I will have $5,000 saved and a business partner.  Sign lease for yoga studio by September 30, 2013 and have grand opening October 15, 2013).  Set specific 30-60-90 day goals and mark your calendar to check your progress at the end of each deadline.
 Network with people in the field of interest.  Learn from their knowledge, successes/failures and experiences.  Find a mentor and a reliable alliance.
If employment with the perfect company is your dream, then narrow down the exact title that fits the description of your dream job and seek a minimum of 10 companies that have an opening for that title – this will make you feel like you have many options.

In conclusion, as a spiritual being, we know this world would be a better place if we worked in our passion zones and encouraged one another to do something they love. So I invite you to do just that.  If you cannot find it in the work you’re currently doing, start doing something every day to work your passion until your passion becomes your work.

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”
~Harriet Tubman